From December 12, 2016
“You can please some of the people some of the time, all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time, but you can never please all of the people all of the time.” – Abraham Lincoln
Why is this quote so interesting to us? Why does it feel timeless? The answer in today’s terms is that we all have “haters” in our lives. Everyone has an opinion. Opinions conflict. Someone tells you that you’re amazing. Someone else tells you that you’re garbage. Who should you listen to? Are they both right?
Here is what happens if you spend all your time caring about what haters think – you’ll stop doing things. You’ll shrink up. There are two extremes psychologists have labeled “pleasers” and “controllers”. Some people spend their life trying to prove their worth to people. Other people spend their life trying to control people. Neither extremes are healthy.
I wouldn’t say that you shouldn’t listen to people. My advice is that you should listen to people, but don’t be paralyzed by them. It is an unrealistic goal to try to live life in such a way that you’ll never offend anyone. Some people will love your message. Other people will harass you. Don’t believe me? Try to search the Internet for a leader that doesn’t have some haters. They don’t exist.
Now, some people have a lot MORE haters than others depending on their level of influence, but everyone has them. Some may even deserve to have them because they’re a bully, but even the world’s saints have had haters.
Here’s the lesson: Do YOU. Don’t be controlled by people who tell you how to live. Stand up for your convictions. Help others. Try to live at peace with those around you. Try not to be a hater.
One of the biggest things I’ve seen and experienced that gets in the way of your own success is caring “too much” about what other people think of you. Fear robs all of us until we decide to overcome the fear.
I hope this encourages someone out there today. If you’re reading this, just know you can win. People will talk trash about you. If you make mistakes, own them. But if you’re just trying to do the right thing, make sure that the one talking trash about you isn’t YOU. Don’t put yourself down. Trust yourself. Stand up for yourself. And go make the world better!